Drs Dewasa Sitohang <Ompu Sebira REVAGDA>

Senin, 2008 November 03

” M A S I PA S A N G A P A N ” Mutual Respect & Honoring

Di Adat BATAK , ada DALIHAN NATOLU :

1. SOMBA Mar HULA2…< Pihak Marga / FAM dari Istri, Nenek..etc)
2. MANAT Mar DONGAN SABUTUHA….<>
3. ELEK Mar BORU….< Marga2 / FAM lain yg menikah dgn Anak Perempuan Owner >

Dari Dalihan Na Tolu ini, Ada Kesimpulan :
Setiap Orang ( Individu ) Wong BATAK akan mempunyai 3 Posisi ( Kedudukan ) secara bergantian, tergantung siapa / MARGA yang punya ( OWNER ) dari ULAON ( Pesta ) untuk MASIPASANGAPAN ( Saling MENGHORMATI …Mutual Respect…Mutual Honoring).

Setiap Orang / Individu pernah Jadi :
Ø Hula2 ( TULANG)…..Mangalean Pasu2, sebenarnya Pasu2 asal nya dari TUHAN.
Ø Dongan Sabutuha ( Se MARGA )… Dongan Masisungkunan / Mewakili , Manolopi..dst
Ø Boru ( Mengikuti MARGA ISTRI / MAMA / OMPUNG BORU ..dst ). Mangurupi Materil &

Immateril ( GOGO… seperti membantu HULA2 utk mengurusi keperluan Pesta dari

Persiapan , Kerjaan di hari ” H ” nya, sampai selesai …Pokok nya BORU ini yang paling

sibuk KERJA….Juga MANUMPAKI….)

Yang menjadi sungkun2 ( Pertanyaan ), Bagaimana DALIHAN NATOLU ini bisa Jadi ADA ?
Di Suku BATAK ada Pembahagian TUGAS yang Jelas, Secara ber ganti2 an mempunyai TUGAS Sendiri, Sehingga se Seorang itu TIDAK TERUS SETIAP SA’AT Menjadi HULA2, DONGAN SABUTUHA, atau BORU, artinya Job Description nya ber beda2 sesuai dgn Posisinya di setiap Pesta ( Ulaon ), dan……

Sungguh Teratur / Tertib………TABO nai….ate Gabe Halak BATAK!!!

Memang Trias Politika ada :
Ø Excecutive
Ø Judicative
Ø Legislative

Tetapi Ndak pernah Job Description nya Ber ganti2 an, dikaitkan dengan Ulaon / Tugas / Rapat yang di adakan, …. Molo Nungnga BOSS… Jadi…BOSS lah TERUSSSSSSSS…., Sehingga terjadi KESOMBONGAN atau Penyimpangan / Penyalah gunaan TUGAS….didok è
….AHU do mangatur NEGARA on…… ISE ..IBANA ..HUROHA ??
Karena Menurut MEREKA??…Benar…..( seperti yang anda Maksud). Terjadilah Pemaksaan Kehendak….Korupsi….KKN……Family sesudah jadi Orang Besar ( Ber Family Gara2… Duit.. Project..lah…dll ). Ndang MASIPASANGAPAN be.

MASIPASANGAPAN Di Negara disebut Semua Orang ( Individu ) Mempunya Hak yg Sama ( Equal Rights )… sekarang istilah Keeren nya …HAM…, Tetapi Kenyataan .. ndak Tahulah. Kalau dari satu Golongan kena Tindas … HAM… Maju…Mudah2an HAM adil utk membela Hak Azasi Manusia. Pernah Saya lihat di TV, se orang Polisi ditendang sama Orang yg DEMO… Apakah …HAM.. Menbela Hak dari Polisi tsb ??…….Saya ndak tahu jelas lanjutan nya.
( Kalau ada yg sudah Tahu, Tolong di …share ..lah )

MASIPASANGAPAN di Faham KOMUNIS, Berdiri sama Tinggi Duduk Sama Rendah… Apa ya..a..a?? Mana Mungkin sama Tinggi , Orang yg Tinggi.. dengan… yg Rendah??…Jujur saja.. tujuan nya sama dgn Theory BOURJUIS
Yang KAYA sama / berkawan dgn Golongan dgn yg KAYA, yg MISKIN sama / berkawan dgn Golongan dgn yg MISKIN.

Sarupa mai tu / sama Hal nya dgn PARJUJI ( Penjudi )
Molo Monang, sude Mandok……. LAE..E..E.. No 1….JAGO an …..                          ( Si TOLOPI na Monang )
Molo Talu, Sude mandok …..LAE…LAE..E…E..E Juga …..tetapi…LAE .E..E… No 20 …huruf abjad …yang ke 20..hon …..

( Mambursikkon Natalu )

Ido prinsip ni Paham ni songon on, jala memang GODANG kenyataan do i di KEHIDUPAN se hari2 (…. ndang Sude…tahe ) .

Di Agama juga disebut :
MASIPASANGAPAN………Hormatilah Sesama MU seperti Diri Mu Sendiri.

Alai di partegas hon do jala dipasingot do di Agama,

molo PASANGAPHON NATUA-TUANTA………………….. ( NATORAS..di artikan ORANG TUA Kita…Apakah bisa juga yang artinya YANG LEBIH TUA….Saya kurang tahu…)

Di Patik Palimahon …….
Ingkon Pasangapon Mu do Na TORAS Mu, Asa Mar TUA Ho……….Di tano nanilehon i TUHAN DEBATA di Ho.

 Hormatilah BAPAK IBU ( ORANG TUA ) MU, Agar Hidup Mu SUKSES… Di Tempat yang TUHAN sediakan Bagi Mu )

Sesudah PASANGAP hon ( Menghormati ) ORANG TUA & TUHAN Kita..Pasti dapat PASU2. ( Berkat & Rezeki)………………… Ada lagi pertanyaan … Sebenarnya DIMANA tempat tanah( KOTA ) yg di berikan /nanilehon ni TUHAN DEBATA di Ho……….Tano tsb……Apakah Tano KOTA Hatubuan (Kampung Halaman tempat dilahirkan), atau Tano Pangarantoan ( Tempat Merantau )…. TANO atau KOTA yg Mana…. ? Di pacocok ma tu diri Pribadi masing2.. Jala direnungkan.. Apakah tingkat kebenaran masing2 mendekati 100%. ….. Bagaimana Tingkat ………..BOHA do KEBERHASILAN KEHIDUPAN ku….???.

Di bawah ini ada rumus Mathematic ………..sebagai ILLUSTRASI

Y = f (X)

Dimana :
Ø Y di assumsikan sebagai…. è Nasib / Rezeki / Kesehatan… KEBERHASILAN….
Ø f di assumsikan sebagai ……è faktor pengali ( correction Factor )
Ø X di assumsikan sebagai …. è utk berbagai macam Hal……..

( TIDAK SAMA UTK semua INDIVIDU )

……X….Bisa itu mulai dari:
X1..adalah tempat lahir…..
X2..adalah Tamatan Sekolah Apa & darimana…
X3 adalah Kerja dimana…..
X4..adalah keturunan siapa……….
X5 Factor pernah atau tidak ME MA’AF kan……….dst ……….dst…………………………………………
X6, X7, X8…….sampai….XN.…..ber macam2 … isi sendirilah…..renungkanlah …..apa betul……….( INGAT lah SEMUA Factor “X” Mu )

Jadi Factor ME MA’AF kan itu sangat mempengaruhi Juga di di tambah Factor ” X ” yg lain MASIPASANGAPAN <>

Sesudah di evaluasi… Ya Benar… Tingkat KEHIDUPAN & KEBERHASILAN ku …………Anda SUKSES…
Lanjutannya….
 Apakah Anda sudah BERTERIMAKASIH

 ( Memberi…Sumbangan/….Zakat / Persembahan/Bantuan) kepada Sesama Mu …atau kepada TUHAN…….                        Aha do Hulehon tu NATUA2 KU, tu NAMANOGU Ahu ( Si Patudu Dalan ) ???

SILAHKAN…Pendapat ANDA
MASIPASANGAPAN…PASANGAPHON….KEBERHASILAN.. MANDAPOT PASU2..
Pls, Your COMMENTS… FEED BACK….ARGUMENTS….DIRECTIONS…ADVICES.

Sincerely YOURS…HORAS…:
Drs Dewasa SITOHANG & Adelina Hutabarat.
Ompu Ni Sebira REVAGDA.
Jakarta, 03 Nov 2008.

Wednesday. Nov 06, 2008
TAKING a TRIP to SINGAPORE ( Jalan - Jalan )
                Singapore. Dec 22, 2005
  
I have 3 ( three ) Childreen named :
1. AGUSTINA Vince Sultana SITOHANG ( 2nd f/ left )
2. Sutan CHANDRA Dosma SITOHANG (1st f/left )
3. LARRYVO Handrian Bounty SITOHANG (5th f/left)
came back from Bandung to Rumbai, Pekan Baru, Riau for Christmas Season in 2005, then We all went to Singapore taking a trip ” Jalan - Jalan “ as to motivate them in achieving good results of studying in UNPAD & ITB, and also make them remembering their childhood, because They have ever gone there several times when Elementary, Junior, and Senior high schooling periods.
We lived in PEKANBARU after I had married with my Wife named ……………………..ADELINA HUTABARAT who was born in PULAU SAMBU, a small island next to SINGAPORE; so, Travelling to Singapore for her like going back to “PULANG KAMPOENG “. She always felt happy & exciting when the Ferry were crossing by the Island.

We started the life in Pekanbaru with hoping, asking , praying to GOD Assistance & Guidance for the shake of my Family, because I am an ordinary person who doesn’t have enough skill & knowledge to bear a heavy daily Load of living Cost. Actually, If You believe in GOD, HE will lead you to survive. No kinds of Problems You have & face, Let GOD help you finding the symptons How to handle & eliminate.
My Wife & I are in doubt How to bring up my childreen, sending them to School or University. We worked to gether such as to sending them to private Courses starting from 1st grade of Elementary thru 3rd grade of Senior high School. My wife has a big effort to teach or educate my childreen becoming hard & smart learners, they didn’t care about childhood needs as to playing with their Friends. My childreen are accustomed to read ” COMIC Books “ , they do like reading such even though They were student, till Now. My Wife & I always pray to GOD for the happiness & Success of my 3 childreen in their Job. They , Agustina as a Dentist ( still continue learning in UI for getting Specialist or Master in Dentistry, Chandra as a Mechanical Engineer, and Larryvo as a Geologist ) finished their study mannerly, properly & timely.

Now We as parent become free of studying Cost, but still have mentally heavy Load about their Marriage, because 2 of 3 my Children are still Bachelors ( LAJANG ).

The eldest Child, Agustina, who married with ” HELA “ Ramses J Tamba , has a pretty lady Baby named …………..SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTY born on Oct 22, 2008.

In BATAK Culture, someone was born & got the name during Baptism e. g My name is DEWASA SITOHANG, The name becomes ” AMANI AGUSTINA “ as a nick Name for the Parents, My Name will be changed to be ” OMPU NI SI SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTY “ due to the birth of my grand lady ( My daughter child f/ AGUSTINA).

The Nick Name will be re changed to be ” OMPU NI ( with out SI ) If my son CHANDRA has a baby …says..His Baby name is….supposed to be …CHOVRY, My Name ” OMPU NI SI SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTI “ will be changed to ” OMPU NI CHOVRY…( without SI…); so, OMPU NISI or with out SI….in BATAK is called GRAND FATHER or GRAND MOTHER in English.
 
I don’t know How to say…. How big of Happiness that My Wife & I have felt & got due to the birth of our beloved grand Lady called SEBIRA REVAGDA OKTOBIRIYANTI. REVAGDA is like an accronym given by my Wife & Me :
R    ==> Ramses   ( Her Father Name )
E    ==> En           ( And )
V    ==> Vince      ( Her Mother Name )
AG ==> AGustina ( Her Mother Name )
D    ==> Dewasa   ( Her Grand Father Name )
A    ==> Adelina.   ( Her Grand Mother Name )

So, Her name is alike ACCRONYM or combination of her Parents Names with her Grand Mother & Father.
 
My Wife & I have felt so exiciting..Happiness…and also got additional fulfillness in the needs of GOD Blessing.

Thanks GOD for everything I have had so far….You may add more….I believe that GOD knows what My Wife & I want……… I Love You All such ….Like How You love Me.
 
Jakarta. 06 Nov 2008.
 Drs Dewasa Sitohang & Adelina Hutabarat..( 15 / 6 )